I think we've all gotten to this place at one point or another. It is what happens when we stare down the spiral staircase of comparison. Why do we take those things about ourselves that we are most insecure about and focus on them? Why do we begin looking to all those people who excel where we fall short and compare ourselves with them? We take a magnifying glass or even a microscope and look at how we measure us. But no matter who you are...no one looks good that close.
I was talking this week with a young person who shared their experience as a child when their parents told them to "Just do your best and we'll be proud". They continued to share that mostly they got A's and B's in school. Logic told them, "This is my best". However when they got to a class where they were getting C's, logic told them, "Your best is an A or a B. You must not be doing your best. They aren't proud anymore". Even when others (their parents) took the burden off, they loaded back on themselves.
So how do we get to this place where we feel like we're nothing? Granted some of us don't spend as much time in this mindset as others but I've seen it more and more.
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1. No one cares.
2. I'm not important.
3. I don't matter.
4. I just don't understand why anyone would love me anyway.
5. I'm broken - failed - used - imperfect - different - not normal
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1. Let me just say if we spend anytime together - I care
2 and 3. Even the smallest drop of water raises the ocean a little - You ARE important and you do matter.
4. You don't need to understand why just know...you are loved.
5. We are all broken in some way, have failed at something, felt used. No one is perfect. We are all different which is what makes meeting new people such an adventure. I have yet to meet a normal person.
